Soulmates

I've always struggled with the concept of Soulmates. Oh sure, there's bound to be someone out there who is the right combination of likes and dislikes to be a great partner for me. But what about the idea that there's only ONE in the entire world? It sounds like a romantic plot device--if there's only one then when it doesn't work out, they weren't The One...and you move on. But what if that One lives on the other side of the planet and works 60 hours a week and you never actually meet? Ever?

This leads to the idea (hope) that there can be more than just One. But then you have to wonder how many there are? A dozen? And if you have a dozen failed relationships under your belt, does that mean you shouldn't try anymore? What if it's the same problem? Sure, there are a dozen chances for you out there...but not one of them lives within 1000 miles of you.

And what about when you're wrong? What about when you love someone so deeply, you are utterly convinced they are your Soulmate and there's nothing that anyone or anything can do to make you change your mind...until you do. And at the same time, maybe they WERE a Soulmate, but they screwed up so badly, you cannot reconcile the schisms in your soul now.

Does that mean your Soul has changed and therefore, your Soulmate may be someone completely different that you would never have been with before the schisms?

Some would say to just chill out, relax, let it happen, you'll meet someone someday...but what if you're not looking and you miss your chance? What if you get hung up on someone you think might be a One, you end up missing the actual One that just walked by?

Soulmates sounds like predestination, but when you start asking these questions, it really sounds more like a chance encounter. More like, you just never know. You cannot know the when, the how, or the who. You just live your life with awareness and somehow keep that hope alive.