I had a fun chat with Hates-Cats last night. We've always had good chats for as long as we've ever chatted. Sometimes we harass the hell out of each other. Sometimes we flirt. Sometimes we have serious talks and I'm always surprised when those appear in the middle of the others. But it's good.
We spoke of body image, and relationships and what we're looking for. To be honest, he's very close to ideal for me, but the whole cat thing just bugs me. And then he said something last night that made me realize he was trying to be a good friend, and supportive, and at the same time, let me know he's not interested.
"If you need someone to talk you up or whatever, I'll gladly put in a good word for you with potential nerd-loves."
Unless I'm reading him completely wrong, that's a gentle let-down to me. I could be reading him wrong--sometimes he's hard to read. Of course, most of what we talked about was relationship stuff. You know, the stuff that comes after you meet and date a while. So...we were way ahead of ourselves. At least for me. You gotta meet someone first.
I'm still clueless about how to do that. I literally shudder to think about letting a friend set me up with anyone. And the two guys I've been interested in lately just don't seem to be into me. The other, of course, is Second Guy. He gives me all kinds of "I'm attracted to you" signs and signals...and yet, he said he "wasn't the right guy for me".
So say they all.
Accidentally deleted Tanya's comment: "I wonder how they know that without giving it a chance."
ReplyDeleteI've often wondered that myself.