Dating Sites, Part 2

I am currently a member of ONE dating site. TrekkieDating.com is a real site and they are exactly like all other dating sites...except they cater to the Trekkies out there. Instead of just sending a generic "flirt", you can send "You must have been shot with a phaser set to stunning". It's silly, sure, but it adds a bit of humor to what otherwise could be rather blasé.

I have filled my profile out to within an inch of its life, I think. And then I sat back and waited to see what, if anything, happened. Oh. Something happened. Once.

Such a douchebag. You don't go from hi to kissing someone on the neck like that. I hadn't even said I was interested. I was trying to have a conversation that might lead to a REAL chat, that might lead to emails, phone calls, etc. Instead, I got that. I usually get nothing at all. Or I get the flirts...and almost all of them are from nowhere near me. Sometimes they ARE nearby...and I'm sorry, but so far, no one attractive. And at least one guy I know in person who creeps me out...and he's my parents age, so NO.

Of course, now, TrekkieDating is charging you to exchange emails. They're desperate for you to upgrade your account and give them money. But sorry, I won't pay for a dating site. Not even one that seems aimed at me. There are other problems with the site, of course, but they're more like other dating sites and the problems I have with them.

Besides, ideally? Ideally, I would meet someone in person and feel that click, that attraction, and hope things got at least to the phone number stage. I have that Second Guy still floating around in the back of my mind, but he said he wanted to be just friends and I just don't think I'll be changing his mind. That's the thing: I shouldn't HAVE to change his mind. I shouldn't have to convince someone I'm worthy enough to be with them.

There is another. (Not to quote Star Wars) I have had an attraction to a friend for a while, and he's split from his wife. I would love it if he was interested--he's a huge Trekkie, too. The only problem is that he hates cats because he's so allergic. For me, that's a major problem because I cannot imagine life without a cat around. I can accommodate for someone who's around temporarily (like my BFF visiting or something), but never having a feline around? I doubt it. But man...other than that. Me-OW. And I mean that in the most un-ironic way possible.